Tips and Tricks for a Happy Long Distance Relationship
The phase when you are falling in love with someone you have been immensely attracted to is one of the best phases of a person’s life! Hearts beat faster, there are butterflies in the stomach, and you want to text, call and see the special one all the time. You just can’t stay apart, and you need minute by minute updates of your loved one’s life. They are like two magnets of strong forces immensely attracted to one another. Testing emotions of all sorts, this phase is beautiful and so romantic right!
Some couples are lucky to be able to be around each other all the time while life gets others making choices and having to stay apart- geographically, not by heart! Distance makes hearts grow fonder for sure but there are times when the physical distance can create a havoc in your heaven.
If you are in a long-distance relationship, in the initial phase or after a couple of years of in person dating, worry not! We have you covered. Everything is fair in love and war. Here, it’s just the distance.
- Set rules and be clear about meeting expectations:
In all relationships there are certain expectations and a long-distance relationship is no exception. Knowing that geography is a hindrance between both of you, one must consider his or her work routine and lifestyle and make promises accordingly. Being clear and communicating about your schedule and what you can and cannot do often is something that should be clarified right in advance. For example, you may not be able to get onto a video call during work hours which may be different from your partners or you may not be able to text often like how your partner can.
- Make sure to set up all your communication devices up-to-date:
Luckily living in the age where we are blessed with communication tools of all types, on various platforms, Long Distance Relationships (LDRs) aren’t any big deal to handle. Invest in good devices which would help you communicate seamlessly. An expensive Wi-Fi connection, a phone which aids great video calling or installing seamless chat applications. Whatever it may take, have all the modes of communication set right
- Be more vocal about your feelings:
Face-to-face being the strongest mode of communication, you definitely have to take an extra mile to cover up on what you miss out on due to the distance. Being in a relationship has emotions of all kinds. When you do not see your loved one in person, emotions can only get intense. It is always a great idea to be vocal about your feelings and talk to your partner about what feels right or what does not.
- Damage control:
LDRs can easily attract small little misunderstandings because of the loss of touch and feel. It is so easy to not misunderstand someone over chats because you cannot sense the tone of the body language at all. Being proactive in clearing out misunderstandings of any size and nature is of utmost importance if you want to have a friction-free relationship.
- Don’t overdo anything:
Having mentioned the first four points here, one must be mindful enough to not over do anything as well. Over texting, over calling, over expressing or simply over demanding on parameters which are difficult to deliver on is a big no no. As you age into the relationship, depending on how well you know your partner you would be able to easily decide what are the limits are and where you need to draw the line.
- Have next meeting plans ready and make a list of things to do when together:
This is something that we absolutely vouch for! At all times, it is good to know the tentative time that you would be meeting next. Looking forward for that next time is what keeps the relationship going stronger. You could add from zing or excitement to this by having a common online platform made between the two of you where you put down a to-do list to be done together. This way you could build the excitement to see each other and when you finally get a chance to meet, it will be nothing but a lot of fun.
- Sexting:
Physical attraction is a part of every relationship and again a long-distance relationship can only make this attraction stronger. Human nature is to long more for what one does not have. Sexting or nude video chatting (with utmost care taken on safety and legal parameters) is a great way to make up for the lack of physical intimacy. This will end you up into some killer sex sessions when you actually meet up next as well. One of the mega reasons to look forward to meeting asap!
- Work on the trust factor continuously:
Work on the trust factor continuously – There is no room for doubts or lies when it comes to a long-distance relationship. When a couple are together it is very easy to make up for mistakes but if there is something hidden or lied about when in a long distance, and your lover gets to know, there is very less chance of gaining his or her trust back. This eventually can only end up into a mess having you lose what you have
- Thoughtful gifting:
Thoughtful gifting options definitely increase with the distance. You could gift your lover your favorite used t-shirt, or an object that you have used and love. This would definitely make him or her feel closer to you. Beautiful handwritten letters, cards or surprise gifts coming into the mailbox, there are lots of gifting options which would have him or her feel physically closer to you as well. We know it sounds materialistic but if not you, there is an object to hold on to when you are missed the most!
- Meet the folks:
A great way to make up for the absence of your long-distance lover is to spend time with his or her family and friends. This will not only make your future bond stronger but will give you a piece of your lover’s life having you feel closer and more bonded.
- Healthcare:
It is very easy to keep talking into the wee hours of the night or trip a quick weekend visit. Many a times, long distance relationship ends up having couples using their workout time or work time in order to catch up with each other. All of this only ends into building stress either physically or mentally. To not mess up on each other’s routine and life quality in totality is something to watch out for!
Hope these tips and tricks help you spice up your long-distance love life and has you looking forward for some exciting things to do for your that special one!
