Is your relationship real? Know with these 7 signs
Being in a relationship is a state which only rare people succeed in avoiding and stay single for their whole life. But for most of us, being in a relationship is inevitable, falling in love is inevitable. Most of us strive to make it the best and perfect experience of their life, strive to make it the true and ultimate one, end it in marriage, but not all succeed.
It is tricky to deduce whether you are in a real relationship or a fake one and keep worrying about how to confirm, keep worrying about suffering heartbreak. Let’s just hope the following signs will at least help reduce your worry and give you an idea as to where your relationship stands:
- There’s just no meaningful communication
Good communication between the two partners is a key for a perfect and healthy relationship. If you are stuck in a relationship where you both rarely communicate anything meaningful like a future together, details about how the day went, pouring heart out to each other, long term plans, etc. then it is a sign for caution. There could be communication, but in the form of random meaningless talks, or just about meeting or sex. No, that’s not how an ideal relationship should work.
- No efforts from their side
Is it only you who makes plans to meet? Is it only you who take efforts to organize the happenings in the relationship? If your partner is not taking any initiative about even any small thing and is happy being passive, then it could not be real.
- Negligible emotional or romantic connect
Ask yourself whether you feel any romantic or emotional connection with your partner, or your partner show the same with you? There you will get the answer. Without these two aspects, no relationship will stand the test of time.
- Sexual intimacy is extreme
This is a sure sign of a fake relationship. Either there will be lots of sex between you both or hardly at all. The other person could be in a relationship with you only for the sex part! And if it feels great and thrilling even for you, think about it; that is not the only aspect of an ideal and true relationship right?
Even if the sex is missing, then it is time to conclude the obvious. There could be the third sign, there is a lot of intimacy shown in public, in front of others, but almost nothing in private! A pretentious and showboating relationship spotted. There should be a balance in everything you both do together.
- Avoiding or postponing important talks
If your partner is not committing to you for long-term, if he/she is avoiding the marriage talks or postponing any of these repeatedly, then you must think about quitting. Not being committed in the beginning happens in most of the relationships, but even after sufficiently long time, say at least a year or two, if your partner is still not committed to you, it’s a sign of a fake relationship.
- EGO is a big thing here
Another important requirement for a perfect relationship is to keep Ego aside and work the middle ground to make it a success. Take stock of where your relationship lies in this aspect. Is your partner stubborn? Always wants things to go his/her way? If your partner never listens to you then you will never be happy in this relationship. You should not be the only one making sacrifices, hearing abuses, feeling wrong even when you are not! Either correct this aspect or get out of this relationship.
- Hiding from you
This includes many things. Most importantly your partner still has not introduced you to his/her friends, family then he/she could be unsure about you. If your partner is not informing you about their whereabouts even once, hiding his/her virtual conversations from you, that could be a sign he/she is in another relationship. You shouldn’t conclude that your partner could be introvert because even the most serious introvert people open up to someone they truly love and introduce to their near and dear ones if they truly want you to be a part of their life for a long term.
It is never good to be in a relationship which is going nowhere. The moment you get confirmed of being in a fake relationship, the moment you feel you are not at all happy in it and there is no future to it, the best solution is to get out of it sooner than later; because the more you stay, the difficult it will become for you to break-up and move on smoothly.
