9 Indications that confirm you are stuck in a “Situationship”

Have you ever found yourself in a position where you are not in a relationship, but yet you are with someone? You might use words like “Friends with benefits” or “Booty call” but now a new title is getting prevalent among people, esp. the millennials and that is a “Situationship.”

In a way, it’s a pseudo-relationship; It may feel like a relationship, but it is not official, it isn’t defined, but it is not one. Though it is definitely something more than friends. If you still haven’t understood the meaning, you will obviously not be able to figure out whether you were or are in a situationship right now. But the following telltale signs will help you in that.

Texting is the main mode of communication

More than meeting-up or talking on the phone, you both do texting. But that doesn’t include any romantic lingo or good morning messages. Most of the texting will include casual & small talk. You won’t reveal any secret or any emotional topic to them but surely you will plan for the next sex meetup or so.

Friends & Family haven’t met them yet

Making your partner meet your near & dear ones is a big step forward for both of you, but in a situationship, this does not happen at all. You will never meet each other’s friends until your relationship status does not change.

You both don’t have any pictures together

Couples do take pictures together when they meet, even friends do. But two people in a situationship don’t do that, they also don’t post anything together on social media. This might be because you don’t want to create memories that you would be able to visit again, and don’t actually see each other in your future. Also, because you don’t want to show them to your friends. In a way, a situationship is secretive.

You both attend events alone

That’s because you both aren’t a couple! At least not yet. You both don’t want to be seen together by anyone. You also don’t feel the need to go with a plus one. This point is closely related to the above two.

Only last-minute plans & no consistency

You both don’t plan for anything well in advance because most of the planning is confined to meeting up next for Netflix & chill. Whatever you both will plan, most of them will be last minute and there will be inconsistencies in your plans, no rules or any set regularity, and you both will be casual about all of it.

You don’t converse about future

Whether it is texting or talking in person, the conversation will mostly involve the present. You never talk about the future or your future plans with them and that includes one week to even 50 years in the future. Such talks happen in real relationships as both know they are going to be together for a long time, but in a situationship, you are unsure about this.

You don’t date anyone else either

It will be a surprise, but you don’t feel the need to see and date someone even though this situationship is not a proper relationship. It might be because you are getting your sex and companionship needs to be fulfilled by that person and hence you feel content. Even you both don’t go on dates either.

You do have sex & sleepovers

Just like “Friends with benefits,” sex is involved and is of the no strings attached type. High chance that it is passionate, satisfying and addictive. Mostly, sex is the main reason why the situationship gets going and you don’t just leave them after sex, you both do have sleepovers, maybe even brush and breakfast in the morning.

You have feelings

Unlike “Friends with Benefits,” in this situation, you do have some feelings for them even if you deny it. It’s just that the feelings are not that much stronger to tell them about it, or you fear rejection, or you are not yet ready to fully immerse your heart in them.

Situationship is like a grey-area in the relationship status of anyone involved. If you are fine with the arrangement, ask yourself, for how much time will this last? After all, being in a complete true love relationship is the ultimate state to be, which we should settle in at some point in our life. So sometime in your life, you will have to either make them official or move on to someone else