What is the significance of Humor for a Perfect Relationship?

Will you really want to be with a person who doesn’t have any sense of humor or who has such a bad sense of humor that it will drive you angry? Some people realize this before getting in a relationship but some don’t. A good sense of humor is anytime welcome and makes a person more desirable, especially as a mate. But is it necessary only to win over your love, or does it play a big role in your life together?

Humor in a relationship

For couples who aren’t married, using positive humor like cheering up their sad faces can work positively for their relationship. Cracking jokes regularly will further cement their relationship. But beware, a specific type of humor called “Aggressive humor” can be detrimental for the relationship. It is characterized by making fun of your partner, teasing them.

In that, you have to be careful regarding the timing of your aggressive humor. It mostly depends on the mood of your partner and the level of humor you are emitting regarding them. If they are seriously annoyed or angry regarding anything, and you end up demeaning them, albeit in a fun way from your side; they will still not take the joke lightly and you will have to face the repercussions of that.

As long as you both are laughing, poking fun at each other, pulling legs, playing pranks, etc. you can use aggressive humor on each other.

Humor in a marriage

Married couples generally have a similar sense of humor, although it is not in any way related to marital satisfaction. Being together for a longer time brings a lot of things in sync for the couple, which is necessary for successful long-term bonding. It is natural to be happier when you have a humorous partner, especially when you agree with the humor when it is of your kind.

Various researches have shown that humor is more important for the marital satisfaction of the wives, implying that women seek humorous partners than men. Although, it is the wife’s use of humor that tends to benefit the marriage if it calms the husband, reduces his heart rate, stress.

The use of humor in marriage also differs in the partners. Women may use it mostly to maintain a relaxed atmosphere in the home, whereas men of the house may use it primarily to reduce their own anxiety, to distract themselves from the stress of day to day life. This is natural, as men are traditionally considered to be the breadwinners and women, looking after the house as a housewife.

Good for tackling disputes

Is there any better tactic than using humor to break the ice? It can be used in many different situations like beginning a conversation, stopping an argument, relaxing the tension between couples, etc. Here again, it is crucial to use the right kind of humor or the strategy may backfire and the situation may worsen.

To be on the safe side, use only that kind of humor; try only those jokes on which your spouse laughed before. Remember one thing, humor is strong glue that binds people together, you will never go wrong with it.

Humor and Sex

Sexual satisfaction and humor do have a connection and women appear to have an edge in it. Women enjoy more and stronger orgasms if their partner is funny in nature and vice versa for those having less humorous partners. Having a funnier partner also prompts women to initiate sex more often and also have more sex than usual.

But if the woman herself is funnier, the effect is the opposite for men, maybe because it requires fewer efforts to satisfy the sexual desire of men. These differences highlight why it is comparatively more important for men to be humorous as it signals their creativity, warmth, intelligence, etc. important traits for any relationship, and valuable ones for women, who are choosier because of higher reproduction costs (shorter reproductive window, pregnant, breastfeeding).

Having a sense of humor is essential for living an overall happy and fulfilling life, not just love life. A relationship without laughs and smiles is sure to go nowhere and end up sooner than usual. Maintain a good amount of humor and keep the relationship in the best shape.