Has your relationship hit a “Rough Patch”?

Nobody is perfect. Nothing in life is perfect. Have you ever come across a couple who have lived a completely happy life till now? One in which there haven’t been any fights or arguments yet. Maybe in some fictitious story or fantasy, but real life is, well, real. Here, couples do go through conflicting times in their relationships.

The reasons

Couples argue frequently over various issues like financial aspect, trust, sex life, extra-marital affair, etc. But sometimes a big fight gets created out of small arguments or they fight on multiple issues. Young couples will experience a rough patch in their relationship if their or anyone’s parents aren’t approving of their relationship.

One big reason for the constant fights and the rough patch could be a severe lack of communication. Couples should know clearly as to what they want and don’t want, from themselves and from each other. They should discuss just about everything under the sun and not hesitate at all. Without any communication, there will be misunderstandings, which will lead to fights.

The rough patch may make couples question their relationship and their love for each other. The thoughts of a breakup or a divorce for married ones will cross their minds. They may think that they are not on the same page regarding many of life’s aspects; they may start wondering as to where their relationship is heading.

What can you do about it?

Arguments do happen in every couple’s love life; if they are small; it is a healthy sign and avoids boredom to creep in. But if the arguments and fights are big and linger for a long time, both of you should take special efforts to resolve the issues and bring back happiness in the relationship. You can do the following things to deal with the Rough Patch:

• Talk right from the onset: Sometimes small issues get converted into big ones. It is important to start talking about them from the beginning and solve them before it gets too late. Talk about all the points and clearly explain your side, what do you want and why do you want.

• Listening is the key: Just like how you have your side of explanation, so do your partner. So listen to everything carefully what they want to convey. Listening is equally as important as talking. Don’t interrupt them when they are speaking, that may annoy them and fuel the issue further. Help them express their side completely and listen attentively.

• Working on self: It is not bad to expect our partners to change themselves as we want but too much is not recommended, and if they don’t want it, accept it. You also need to work on yourself, be as how they want you. Express your needs and wants easily and on time. No one has the magic powers to know by themselves what you want.

• No harm in moving on: Even after giving a lot of efforts the issues remain and cannot be solved, the best thing remains is to part ways. There is no shame in doing that; you both can still remain in contact as friends. Breaking us is not necessarily a failure; sometimes taking a step down in the relationship is better for everyone. Sometimes, couples who have parted ways understand each other more than those still stuck in a conflicted relationship.