When is PDA appropriate for dating?

Expressing your love and affection to your romantic partner is a common thing for couples, but many a time, they are unable to keep their hands off each other in a public place. Otherwise, it is fine, but if there are other humans around, then you may end up making them squirm. Besides, there are certain limits or rules as to when you should begin the PDA activity in your relationship.

Beginning of Dates

If you asked him/her out and got a positive response, congratulations! Your love life with this person just began. Now you both will meet each other for dinner or movie dates, maybe even for any other kind of date. The frequency of your dates may increase; you both may even start kissing or have sex at your or their apartment when either of you will drop-off the other back home. All of this will proceed naturally and depend on quite a few factors.

The level of Attraction

Ask yourself how much are you attracted to them? How much you are into them? This factor will determine how your relationship will proceed. It will also play a role at the beginning of your PDA (Public Display of Affection) and how much will you do. But no matter how much you are attracted to your partner, having some level of control, in the beginning, is crucial.

Not every time it will happen that both of you will initiate physical contact in public. What if your partner feels uncomfortable about it? Holding hands, holding by the waist, kissing can proceed gradually, but even then you should respect your partner’s feelings and hold on until the level of their comfort or until you both reach your/their bedroom.

PDA in the early stages of dating may not be good for the following reasons:

• Couples do feel the urge to show their relationship to the world, but it may turn out to be just that – showboating to the world. There could nothing be truly romantic or loving about each other.
• Either one or both the partners could be in it for the “Lust” part.
• You have to ensure that your partner is not doing any PDA with you just to make someone jealous.

There is no point to rush in dating; taking it one step at a time is the key to a long-lasting relationship. Proceed to show affection to your partner in public only if:

• They have become comfortable being with you, they have become comfortable with your touch in public.
• They are not overtly introverts and aren’t refusing any form of PDA.
• Zero or minimum no of humans are around to feel awkward. Anything before the level of kissing is fine in a crowd, else exercise control.
• If there are children or elders around, refrain from PDA as much as you can. Learn to respect others’ sentiments.
• Having sex or foreplay in a public place is never advised, but if you can’t control the urge, do it only in a place where absolutely no one is around and no one will disturb you at any point in the act. You don’t want to end up in jail or getting blackmailed.

Physical touch is important in a relationship, though everything has a proper time and limits to it. Even the experts believe that occasional PDA is good for the relationship, but overdoing it may kill the importance and the thrill of it.